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June 14, 2013

My hair story

Once upon a time...

Believe it or not, as a teenager, I used to feel really bad about my hair. I thought it was too thin, too straight and too flat for any hairstyle other than a ponytail. I felt really disadvantaged and if someone told me back then that I had what it takes to become a "hair guru" I would laugh in their face! I considered my hair no styling material whatsoever. But things that are beyond our reach always tend to be the most desirable ones, so secretly I was still dreaming about gorgeous hairstyles. I'd give a lot to learn a couple of a hair tricks, but beauty secrets used to be those best kept ones. They were a kind of a personal signature that no one would be willing to reveal unless mildly tortured ;)

One day I decided to try myself in modeling and to my great surprise I started receiving offers to model for hair stylists. That's when I got totally shocked to see how they could transform my hair into amazingly stunning updos, not to mention they'd do it in a matter of minutes! Sometimes I was told that my hair was perfect for styling and even though I wouldn't believe it at first (and I still have some serious doubts about it lol), witnessing countless transformations from zero to hero I started to realize that perhaps it's all about skills? Watching how hairdressers were styling my hair for shows and workshops,  I learned how to make it appear fuller in romantic curly updos and gosh, I was sooo happy about it! Initially these curly updos were my only go-to look. My hair was still too thin for braids, while half updos would consume most of my hair volume and looked rather sad than flattering.

But here came my second revelation: I discovered clip-in extensions! That's when my entire creative potential really got unleashed lol With my extensions I could finally try out all the looks that I've been dreaming about for so many years - starting from a basic fishtail braid and all sorts of curls to more elaborate half updos and buns. The time has come to make all my hair wishes come true, so I fanatically kept on trying out all sorts of hairstyles. Hairstyling became my official obsession :)



Sometimes I wonder, what if I were born with naturally thick hair? Would I have the same passion for hair styling? Or would I take my hair for granted or even come up with some nonsense to complain about? So far every "hair goddess" that I met has always complained about her hair, which of course, I could never comprehend... But one thing that I know for sure is that *any* type of hair has its own potential and advantages, so we should focus on those rather than seek for faults! Thick hair is perfect for braids, down dos and half up half down hairstyles, thin hair is great for all sorts of updos - it is very easy to secure, never feels heavy any doesn't make you feel hot in summer. Natural waves/curls provide an awesome texture to work with, while straight hair has a beautiful glossy finishing. I'm really happy that I finally learned to appreciate my own hair and I hope that I've inspired you a little bit to love yours! :)


Now what is this YouTube thing?


About 4 years ago I've discovered the entire YouTube beauty community completely by chance. I was watching a music video and some beauty tutorial popped up in the related videos section. At that time there were hardly any hair tutorials on YouTube and those very few available were very well received by the viewers. I immediately felt a calling to make my own contribution and share my knowledge with all those girls who wanted to have pretty hair, but just like myself some time ago, did not have a clue how to go about it. At first I wasn't sure if I was comfortable going *that* public, but after 6 months of hesitation, I finally couldn't resist my calling any longer and filmed my first videos. I still remember them - Lada Gaga and Beyonce inspired hairstyles from their "Telephone" video :) My videos were very well received by the viewers and their kind feedback kept on motivating me to make new videos ever since :)

Secret of success?


Here I have to thank my dear viewers for their precious feedback! When viewers find what they are looking for, they subscribe and come back for more, so I always do my best  to stay connected with my audience and create content that meets their needs. I try to recreate the most wanted looks that they request and I use their suggestions to improve my content. My main goal is to keep my tutorials easy to follow, straight to the point and relatively simple to do in a reasonable amount of time.




Haters?

Hardly any... No, seriously, I think at this point only 1 viewer in 100 000 feels obliged to inform me about how bad they feel about me for such or such reason. And whatever is their reason to dislike me, there are always many times more people who say that they like me for that exact same reason! This just shows that you cannot please everyone, so no need to worry about it :) There used to be more haters when I just started, and sometimes I'd get shocked by rudeness of certain comments. You know,  in "real" life it's rather unthinkable to approach a stranger and point out what is that you dislike about his or her looks etc, so you don't have a clue what other people can possibly think about you. But when it comes to YouTube, the "comments" section below each video might appear to some  viewers as an invitation to point out everything they perceive as a flaw, even if these flaws have nothing to do with the topic of the video. I think that by now I've already received any possible sort of criticism and I learned to filter out somewhat tactless yet constructive suggestions from groundless hostility. I use constructive suggestions to improve my videos and ignore real haters - after all, their opinion does not define anything but their own mentality. 


What's next?

More hair tutorials, that's for sure! But then also some DIY, make-up and nail videos. I receive more and more requests to film such videos and every once in a while it's fun to do something other than hair. I also think of making tutorials in languages other than English, perhaps I'll start from Russian and French and see how it goes.




Be inspired!


Those of you who are new to hair styling often ask me for advice on how to get good in it, and I think the most important is to approach hair styling with a positive attitude! Don't expect to succeed on your first try, not even of the 5th one. Hair styling is a craft and it takes time to reach a certain level. Spend as much time as it takes mastering a particular technique and don't be too harsh on yourself. The only thing you should know is that eventually you will get there. Keep on trying - practice and patience is all you need.

Many people give up way too fast. Having failed after a single attempt, they consider their task undoable. That's a big mistake. From my own experience I can tell you that most of the time I succeeded not because I was already skilled or got lucky, but because I kept on trying, learning and improving. Very often success came when I was just about to give up, so afterwards I was really glad that I didn't and feel totally rewarded by the final result. Remember, the darkest hour is just before the dawn!

Finally, try to think out of the box! When you see a certain look done on hair that you think is quite different from your own, don't assume that this look is not for you, but try to use it as an inspiration and adapt it to your own hair. Over 90% of girls who comment "my hair is too thick/thin/short/dark/straight/curly for this hairstyle" are just being lazy :p

So here are just a couple of ideas to inspire you:

  • You can still try a look presented on straight hair on your naturally wavy/curly hair - you'll surely get a somewhat different look which will be softer and messier, but then again that's really on trend these days, so just take advantage of it! And -->
  • If you cannot yet achieve that perfect sleek finishing, go for an intentionally messy look. 
  • If you want to recreate a curly look while and you own hair is naturally straight and you don't like to use heat on it,  curl it with braids, buns, twists or soft rollers overnight. 
  • Girls with naturally thin and flat hair will also hugely benefit from curling it!
  • If you find your hair is too long/thick for a certain look, apply the suggested technique on a smaller portion of your hair. Transform an updo that you find too heavy or too difficult to secure into a half updo where only top layers are used to form a bun, while bottom layers and left loose. Divide and concur - if a single section is too difficult to pin in place, split it in several smaller sections!
  • Girls whose hair isn't long enough can adopt certain elements of hairstyles presented on longer hair, such as side/top braids/twists and replace side swept buns with cute curly ponytails. 
  • And I'll never agree that braids don't show up on dark hair (I used to have jet black hair, so know what I'm talking about). Fine, if you're looking at yourself in a low lit bathroom or corridor mirror, you might be under such an impression, but I could say the exact same thing about my blonde hair! Sunlight is all it takes to see every detail of your hairstyles, so go out and show off your lovely hair to the world ;)

Stay beautiful!
Lilith.



































37 comments:

  1. You are so pretty! :)

    Love jelaegbe.blogspot.de

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  2. Gorgeous dress!
    I love your YouTube channel and I hope you'll be publishing new hairstyles for a long long time ;)

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  3. Lilith, that dress is amazing and so beautiful... now i have to find one lol

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  4. Fabulous Facebook page and Youtube videos. I have told all my friends about you, and we are all massive fans. In fact when I go out these days people say to me "Ooh I love your hair - is it a Lilith?" LOL

    Lisa Kennedy
    www.pucciandpurrberry.co.uk

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  5. You are beautiful and stunning young lady!
    I have to admit, I made some money thanks to you and your hair tutorials! :)
    I wish you all the best and keep on doing this!
    Greetings! :)

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  6. Nossa curto muito seus penteados,tentei fazer alguns mais ñ me dei bem outros ja acertei,para mim vc é uma inspiração,uma guru kkkkkkkk parabens vc é linda e muito inteligente

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  7. What a lovely, sweet, useful and genuine post, just like your videos! I have learned so much from you, and you've helped me have more confidence in situations where I want to have my hair done. I always recommend people to your youtube channel, even strangers! You do such a wonderful job, and my favorite part is how genuine you seem. Keep it up, Lilith, you are amazing!

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  8. Lilith,
    I am so happy I found your video on YouTube “How to cut your own hair and trim spilt ends” by a google search. I have become a fan of your work. I appreciate you teaching us how to style our hair with your knowledge and wit. Your videos are fun and easy to learn. I tell my husband I watch your videos to look pretty, he smiles. Thanks a bunch! Much success to you!
    Saludos from Florida

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  9. This is a great pleasure to read this post. I was reading the first part and thinking: "That's me!!". I always want to cry when I see girls with beautiful thick and long hear :( I haven't got hair extension yet but I will absolutely try to make your gorgeuos hairstyles!!

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  10. Буду нереально счастлива если видео будут на русском!!!Спасибо за ваши идеи!
    Альбина из Германии :-)

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  11. I stumbled upon your YT channel just a little while ago and just by the same accident that you stumbled across beauty tutorials, and I'm very happy that I did! Your hairstyles are just GREAT!

    So far I have only tried two, because I broke my elbow in April and have not able to reach my hair with that arm. Which was really the thing that annoyed me the most about the broken arm. Trying to comb over-shoulder-long hair with just one hand ... or walking my dog when it's windy and your hair keeps flying around your face, because you can't tie it in a ponytail with just one hand! ;-)

    But as soon as my arm stops being a spoilsport I will try out more of your hairdos. You have so many that I would have thought had to have been done by professional hairstylists and would certainly not be able to be recreated by just anyone! You keep amazing me!!
    Thank you and keep it up!

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  12. Lilith:
    I have always wanted to write a comment on yours wonderfull videos, but I haven't. Now I want to Thank you for all your amazing videos; I think I have watched each one of them :)
    I have a very long hair, I have never cut it, and some time ago I thought I could never make a hairstyles. Since I watch your videos everybody loves my hairstyles and asks me how could I make them myself.
    Thank you so much! you really inspired me.

    You are so beautiful.

    Big hug form Colombia

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  13. Wow those pictures are amazing :) And I have to thank you, for you helped out of many "bad hair days" :)

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  14. That dress, and hair, and make-up and just you overall is so beautiful! Thank you for sharing this with us. I'm working on your sideswept braid styles at the moment...still haven't figured out how to get anything but flat braids, but I will get there one day. :D

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  15. Beautiful pictures my dear. Love love love this dress. It's sooo summery gorgeous, very feminine!
    Xoxo, Luchessa.

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  16. You are a genious!! You inspired myself in every hairstyling. I feel like you about my hair, and you give me the greatest solutions! Thank you and keep doing this!

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  17. Keep up the good work Lilith.

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  18. You are such a wonderful soul.wish you all the very best:)))
    God Bless!

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  20. add your videos in Daily Motion too.

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  21. Hi Lilith,

    Thank so much for sharing your hair story.It is very inspiring and interesting.
    I'd would like to use this opportunity to express my deepest regards and admiration of your work.
    I found your videos a couple years ago on Youtube and it was a revolution in my hair story:)

    Thank you so much for sharing you knowledge with us and helping me to be more confident and beautiful woman.

    Спасибо огромное за красоту,которую Вы несете людям.Творческих успехов и отличного настроения.

    Natalya.


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  22. Hola qué tal? Soy brasileña, me gusta mucho tus videos, tus peinados, me gustaria que hicistes videos en español.
    Muchas gracias
    Cristina
    www.cristymakeup.blogspot.com.br

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  23. You are just amazing and beautiful and I love your videos and your dress is awesone!

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  24. jet black thin straight hair. . . that's my hair. . .
    i keep complaining abt its thin nature. . but ur hair styles help me feel ok abt my hair. . but seriously just can't adjgdtdtgat wit thin hair you create such awesome hair styles. ,love your tutorials and you are just too pretty . . .

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  25. Keep up the good work, Lilith. Stay beautiful and true!

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  26. How do you keep your hair SO blonde and still looking healthy? Which lightening products do you use?
    Also I'm film director and I have fallen in love with your segments! You are wonderful! And, FYI old Hollywood did use lip gloss, tons of it. Check out Maureen O'hara in The Spanish Main, so much gloss, still not sure how they kept them from bleeding! First marketed to women in 1932 by max factor called "X-Rated". Keep going my sister and I love you!!! xo

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  28. Loved reading this post - your story is inspiring, just like your videos! I used to be so frustrated by curling irons/perm that didn't work on my hair, but ever since I found your overnight curling videos, I've finally been able to have curly hair that looks nice. Recently I've also started wearing half updo's based on your tutorials/tips. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge and talent with us!

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  29. Amazing, wspaniałe rady, jesteś cudowna, inspirujesz ludzi. POLAND LOVES YOU

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  30. Hey lilth..shrraaddha here, your follower on fb,youtube n instgram... you are so right girls with curly shirt hair are lazy to do the hairstyles u mentioned...hehehehe.eye opener!!! Ok now m gonna try them again.M a big fan of you. trust me its because of ur hair tutorials, my hair look brilliant and people wonder in my office, how do I get time to do these hairstyles!!! Thanks to youuu

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  31. Дорогая Лилит, именно дорогая! Ты многому учишь в своих видео, спасибо тебе огромное! Спасибо тебе за время и за усилия, которые ты прикладываешь создавая свои видео. Я многому научилась у тебя. И я просто бесконечно рада, что ты говоришь по-русски. Когда я только начинала смотреть твои видео, я была просто под впечатлением от твоей техники преподавания. Я мечтала выразить тебе свою благодарность за твой труд, но не хотелось это делать через переводчика. Ты стала настолько близка и дорога мне, я уже чувствую тебя своей подругой! Ты не только красивая и очень милая, ты обладаешь замечательным талантом преподавания. Спасибо что делишься своим опытом так бескорыстно. Ты вдохновляешь на новые открытия!

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  32. Spasibo tebe, Lilith! I very much enjoy all the hard work you've put into your videos. Such fun!

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  33. Hi Lilith, how to wash away the oil after oiling my scalp? I find it is very troublesome. Pls help me

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  34. ‪здравствуйте, регулярно Вас смотрю и вдохновляюсь!! помимо всего прочего, я восхищаюсь Вашей профессиональностью снимать видеоролики!! нежные цвета и размытый фон! вы не могли бы в след. своем #‎askLilith-видео рассказать какой камерой вы пользуетесь (хотя это наверно будет уже реклама,да?..).. а еще Ваши наряды всегда выбраны со вкусом..есть ли у Вас любимый бутик/сайт, где Вы подбирате себе платья? опять, наверно, будет реклама, но так хочется узнать..:)) может, только мне напишите )) и как Вас зовут? Лилия?.. Спасибо, Надя..

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  35. You're beautiful and intelligent. Just being fluent in multiple languages is impressive, let alone your artistic ability with hair. You are definitely an inspiration to young girls.

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